HELP.

Okay, ladies (and gents). I'm in this situation where basically an ex-coworker and friend set me up with a good friend of his. The guy (let's call him "J") and I have been texting for a month or two. It is absolutely obvious that he feels attracted to me, but I feel no attraction to him whatsoever. I can see us being friends, but nothing more. And I feel bad for saying that, but it's the truth. Anyways, so "J" and I made a bet on a football game that if his team won, we'd go out for lunch. They won. So we're going to Max & Erma's tomorrow at one for lunch.

As if the idea of going out on a [albeit lunch] date with someone I don't like isn't nerve-wracking enough, it's also my first ever date! Which is weird, because I've had boyfriends in the past.

To further complicate things, I have a crush on a fairly close friend of mine I know through church. And I'm somewhat certain that he likes me too.

So basically, I like this guy a lot but I'm going on my first-ever date with some other guy I feel nothing towards who likes me.

I don't know how to tell him that I don't like him, and if he tries to kiss me (which btw, I'm totally against first date kisses) then I don't know how to reject him without you know, hurting his feelings. Because my biggest fear in life is abandonment, and for me, that includes the possibility of abandoning others as well.

HELP. And yes, I realize that no one will respond to this in time for my lunch date tomorrow, which I am, by the way, not looking forward to at all. AHHHHHHHHHHHH

*commence pulling hair out*